Choose Your Words Carefully

James 1:27 – 21 So get rid of all the filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your hearts, for it has the power to save your souls.

In 1992, author Gary Chapman wrote a little book called The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.  I’ve read through the material, and it is really powerful stuff!  On his website, it says the Premise of Gary’s books is that everybody generally has their own primary love languages for receiving love and giving love. It may be the same for giving/receiving, and it may be different. If a husband does not meet the primary love language of his wife, she might not sense his true feelings and start to be unsatisfied with their relationship, and vice versa.

Understanding your spouse’s love language and acting accordingly will fill their “Love Tank”. The “Love Tank” analogy is a great metaphor for describing how loved someone feels. Like a gas tank in a car, our lives run best when our Love Tank is filled and constantly being topped off. The alternative is running on fumes and burning out.

Gary’s book talks about Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Quality Time, and Receiving Gifts.

To find out more about the 5 Love Languages click HERE



I believe that our Christian relationships encompass all of these love languages on a spiritual level:  Affirmation to praise God and encourage each other, Service to God and our community, Intimacy in relationship with Him and in unity with our congregation, Time together, and the Gifts of the Spirit … all things we are called to use for each other and to honor God with.  These languages of the Spirit enable us to live and walk in the light of Truth.


In this spiritual realm, I can see that there are different love languages spoken to us and through us.  As we consider our daily lives, it is a good practice to look and understand what is being spoken to us and how we are speaking love to God and to our communities.

Our Enemy has a Love Language

First we must recognize that Satan (“Adversary” or “Accuser”) is supremely in love with himself, so the only way he can communicate is from a place of hatred for anything good or holy. His main objective is to get us to love SELF more than God, because that is what He does.

And right from the start he has what seems like an advantage!  We are all born with a fallen nature that is bent towards sin from the moment we are able to choose right and wrong!  He does everything in his power to appeal to our natural bodies and desires.  He wants us to love ourselves more than God, to put aside what God wants for what WE want.  Satan’s language is false and deceives people into believing no one understands but him, while all the time he is setting them up for destruction.

Everything he does is a perversion.  He cannot create anything good so he is stuck with turning good to evil; turning order to chaos.  Here are a few of the ways he speaks his love language to us:


Praise – building up our ego.  Telling us that we don’t need a God other than ourselves. (Genesis 3:1-5)

Service – He will gladly serve our self-interests for a season, to gain our worship and obedience. (Matthew 4:8)

Intimacy – He does this by promising illicit physical pleasure (Proverbs 7)

Time – stealing our time management by distracting us to death (Ephesians 5:16)

Generosity – Satan promises to be generous to us, and pushes the self-worship button again towards a greedy and unfulfilled life.   Just try it, you’ll like it.  I’ll give your more! He is totally ok with blessing us with enough material wealth to numb us to any good thing.

Our Love Language to Satan

Isaiah 14 tells us what he wants from us, “I will ascend to heaven and set my throne above God’s stars. I will preside on the mountain of the gods far away in the north. 14 I will climb to the highest heavens and be like the Most High.”.  Simply put, Satan wants your worship.  He will do anything he can to pull our worship away from the One True God.

When you look at your life, and you are obviously not in a right relationship with God, then understand that you are speaking a love language to the enemy of our souls!  You are giving Satan exactly what he wants.  You are making him feel loved, in the most perverse way: idolatry.

God’s Love Language TO US

God is constantly communicating to the world that He loves us. The ultimate form of this love towards us is Grace and Truth found in the person of Jesus Christ.  He is God’s WORD to us.

Jesus is God’s communication of Love to humanity.  And his message is all about Grace and Truth:

Grace – “And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth… For from his fullness we have all received, grace upon grace.” John 14:14

Grace is love in action.  Grace is undeserved favor.  Grace doesn’t keep a record of wrongs, it covers a multitude of sins, and it encapsulates the favor of God towards every single person ever conceived in history.  Grace offers forgiveness, mercy, and empowerment through Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit.

Truth is the standard of Love that never changes.  God loves you so much that he is absolutely unwilling to hide from your sin OR to leave you in your sin, because sin is death and Jesus is Truth.  Jesus is the Way to God, The One we must be accountable to, and the LIFE He raises us to become.

Jesus (full of Grace and Truth) is God’s love language to us!  The Gospel of Jesus Christ is what speaks to us more than any other love language on earth.

Our Love Language to God

What speaks to God?  How does God know that we love Him?

James 1 says, “22 But don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves. 23 For if you listen to the word and don’t obey, it is like glancing at your face in a mirror. 24 You see yourself, walk away, and forget what you look like. 25 But if you look carefully into the perfect law that sets you free, and if you do what it says and don’t forget what you heard, then God will bless you for doing it.

If Jesus is God’s love language to us, then obedience is our love language to God.  And Faith is the messenger.

James 2 continues, “20 The fact is, faith has to show itself through works performed in faith. If you don’t recognize that, then you’re an empty soul. 21 Wasn’t our father Abraham made right with God by laying his son Isaac on the altar? 22 The faith in his heart was made known in his behavior. In fact, his commitment was perfected by his obedience. 23 That’s what Scripture means when it says, “Abraham entrusted himself to God, and God credited him with righteousness.”  And living a faithful life earned Abraham the title of “God’s friend.” 24 Just like our father in the faith, we are made right with God through good works, not simply by what we believe or think. 25 Even Rahab the prostitute was made right with God by hiding the spies and aiding in their escape.[f] 26 Removing action from faith is like removing breath from a body. All you have left is a corpse.

Faith sends the message of love to God when we act righteously, obeying God with our choices.  Faith is the conduit – our spiritual nervous system – that sends obedience signals from our spiritual body to our spiritual Head, which is Jesus Christ.

We also speak a spiritual Love Language

When we speak God’s language, He empowers us to become a witness to both believers and unbelievers.  We end up SPEAKING THE LOVE LANGUAGE OF GOD TO OTHERS.


Life is essentially our relationships.  As we face each day with all of its circumstances and responsibilities, let’s choose carefully what we are speaking to our families, our spouses, our children, our brothers and sisters in Christ, and to our world.  It is important that we say and DO what is right in the sight of God.

Today you will either pay attention to what our Adversary speaks to us in our social media, conversations, thoughts, and actions or you will bring your mind and thoughts under the subjection of Christ.  Which voice you listen to will determine the language you speak:  one of self-worship and service to Satan for the temporary pleasures he offers, or one of obedience to God for the blessing, protection, and spiritual abundance He gives.

Choose your words carefully!


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